Welcome to Le Confesseur

Welcome to my world of Le Confesseur, where you'll find candid and hilarious confessions from a girl everyone turns to for advice. Get ready to laugh, cry, and relate to the ups and downs of life. This is the story of my life. I always wanted to be Daddy's Little Girl! Then I got hurt and kept getting hurt in relationships  as I grew older and then I ended hurting myself more than others.  My journey has inspired me to reach other to others who also have been hurt by others and wish to heal their hearts 💕 I have written a few books that I would like to share with you. I hope you find them helpful. Feel free to contact me for support sessions. I am a highly trained Child Adolescent and Family Therapist.  I love learning and that is the story of my life

 

An inspiring and versatile Clinical Child, Adolescent and Family Therapist, I have extensive experience in offering counselling/ assessment for clinical therapy for children, adolescents, and families with presenting challenges. I have sound decision making abilities, having been accountable for providing assessments and case management services to clients and families. I have used my expertise and skills base to pilot a program called ‘The Incredible Year’s in Bermuda. I have implemented this into my private practice showing how a behavior management program can be a successful tool in teaching parents about parenting young children with behavior management issues, special needs, emotional regulation, stress, relationships issues, diabetes, eating disorders, trauma, learning difficulties and autism I also provide therapy for young people, families, and adults within goal-oriented environments. My exceptional leadership ability, combined with my firm focused acumen has consistently enabled me to build, manage and motivate successful teams of individuals, to provide high level CBT therapeutic service/ education and support to parents/care givers, children, and families. I launched innovative treatment plans to improve processes of high standards of therapeutic practice, in addition to practical management provision of teaching family’s strategies to cope with non-compliant behavior; including how diet/lifestyle choices can bring stress and trauma to a family. Acknowledged as extremely organized, calm and solution focused, I can liaise effectively and diplomatically within the community, with schools, health professionals and paraprofessionals at all levels to ensure the goals of the individual are considered and the views of the multidisciplinary teams I work with are heard. Enthusiastic and highly qualified School Counsellor I provide short-term CBT clinical therapy, long-term therapy as well as running workshops on reducing stress in children, anxiety and emotional regulation and forming healthy relationships.

 

Key Knowledge, Core Skills & Expertise

  • Expertise and knowledge in a wide range of therapeutic approaches including CBT, Psychoanalysis, Systemic, Gestalt, Transactional Analysis, Transpersonal, Art and Play Therapy with children, young people, and adults.
  • Proven track record of successful interventions with a very challenging case load
  • Being able to diagnose problems early by undertaking thorough assessments and formulating effective solutions.
  • Superior leadership skills running educational teaching programs ‘Incredible Years and Incredible Me’ Program with the proven ability to consistently build, motivate and manage effectively achieving successful outcomes for adults/families.
  • Diplomatic and tactful with the capacity to build strong working relationships at all levels in a work environment.
  • Outstanding communication skills, both written and verbal, accustomed to handling sensitive, confidential records.
  • Computer expertise in a wide range of applications including MS Office, Word, Excel, IYSS, self-servicing and confident with online and mobile technologies.
  • Proven ability to manage multiple priorities, adapting to changing requirements and finding solutions to problems as they arise.
  • Undertaking research and using analytical skills to plan and deliver individual and family group therapy around life skills for adults and families including Incredible Years program.
  • Demonstrate a sound understanding of Child Protection and Safeguarding policy and procedure and commitment to safeguarding children and vulnerable adolescents and adults.
  • To assess the support needs of children and families referred to the Service by using assessment tools, to understand the family’s skills, challenges and strengths, and work with them to change patterns of behaviour and challenge and motivate families as they set and achieve their own goals.

 

Career Summary

 

2023 Registered Clinical Child, Adolescent and Family Therapist British School of Lisbon, Portugal

 

  • Dedicated and compassionate school counselor with nineteen years of professional experience in mentoring students to achieve their full potential and become productive members of society. Providing guides to high school students in planning their academic goals and career and ensuring quality academic performance by encouraging lower truancy rates and boosting student morale.
  • Helping students with low self-esteem and confidence, bullying, healthy boundaries, PDA: Pathological Demand Avoidance, friendship challenges and emotional regulation.
  • Supporting students to build their social/emotional skills with social emotional coaching.
  • Providing one-to-one counselling to support children with anxiety, OCD, ADD, ADHD, ASD, bereavement, separation and divorce. Supporting children and parents with picky eaters and sensory processing issues. Meeting with parents, doing assessments and offering family therapy support sessions.

 

  • Attending regular supervision, reflection and thinking critically to support student’s mental well-being.
  • Maintaining administrative records, compiling data., and preparing administrative reports
  • Completed Internation Child Protection Training Safeguarding Level 3
  • The school mission is to provide high quality education and childcare in a safe, respectful and inclusive environment that builds a foundation for life-long learning. The school is committed to providing a positive, safe and stimulating environment for children to learn, where all are valued.

 

2005-2016 Clinical Director/ Therapist Blue Lotus London UK

Key Achievements:

  • Successfully set up, established, and managed a therapeutic service for children, adolescents, parents & families with learning disabilities, trauma, family breakdown, substance misuse, abuse, relationship challenges, eating disorders, gender identity.
  • Implemented highly effective therapeutic interventions for families and individuals.
  • Managed an average caseload of 35 clients facing a variety of health concerns, childhood trauma, stress, eating disorders, substance abuse, legal, relationship and family issues, loss, bereavement, learning difficulties and mental health issues.
  • Provided one to one therapeutic support for goal orientated Health Work Life Balance Lifestyle programmes for Adults who faced common issues in their work and personal lives.
  • Using my strong influential and pervasive skills to maintain and source new clients to establish an excellent reputation.
  • Created positive relationships with GP’s. health professionals and paraprofessionals to create referrals and effective well-being outcomes for adults and families.
  • Demonstrated ability to work under pressure and meet deadlines and handle confidential information.
  • Designed and marketed the company logo, stationery, brochures, flyers, and advertising.

 

 

Skills, Interests and Qualities

  • empathy and an open and friendly manner
  • ability to gain the trust of children.
  • resilience and insight for working with children in emotional distress.
  • great spoken and written communication skills
  • a broad knowledge of child development including knowledge of psychosexual development Freud’s Five stages Oral, Anal, Phallic, Latent and Genital stage.
  • a good understanding of the different ways children communicate their feelings.
  • an honest and sincere respect for children
  • a flexible and motivated approach to work
  • the ability to work with difficult behaviour, without making judgements.
  • a good understanding of issues surrounding confidentiality.
  • the ability to work alone and in a team.

 

 

 

 

 PROFESSIONAL QUALIFICATIONS AND TRAINING

  1. 2018  Protecting Children from Child Sexual Exploitation (V2) Safeguarding E-Academy CPD Certified

                    How to Build Your Child’s Emotional Intelligence Dr. Darrien Ray, Clinical Psychologist

                    Grief and Loss, Dr. Darrien Ray, Clinical Psychologist

                 Adverse Childhood Experiences Conference, Family Centre & InterAgency Committee for Children & Families

 

  1. 2017 Diet and Nutrition and Its Impact on a Child's Learning Ability Hannah Jones, Registered Dietitian Bermuda

                  Using Apps for Reading & Phonics Kimberly Mclvor, Senior Speech Language Pathologist, Apex Allied Health

                  Occupational Therapy for Children Moffat Makomo, The Learning Disabilities Association of Bermuda

 

2016  Certified Stewards of Children SCARS Bermuda

                  Working with Families with Historical Abuse Tavistock & Portman NHS Trust. University of East London

                  E-Safety Awareness Child Protection Training Kent Country Council Services

                  Sexual Abuse How to identify the signs and understand the Issues Kent Country Council Services

                  The Science of The Art of Psychotherapy Allan Schore

                  Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Training Family Action

 

2014/16 MA in Transpersonal Child, Adolescent & Family Therapy. Centre for Counseling and Psychotherapy Education CCPE Beauchamp Lodge, London. University of Northampton

 

2015 Diploma in Sandplay Studies Centre for Counseling and Psychotherapy Education CCPE London.

 

2014/15 CPD

             Mindfulness Psycho Education practices

             Understanding eating disorders

             Play Therapy Awareness Training

             Child Development Training with BAAF

             Understanding Attachment Training with BAAF

             Group work Training

             Child Abuse linked to Faith or Belief

             Early Years Child Development Training

             ADHD/ASD Awareness training 

             ‘Making Sense of Neglect’ Understanding the Lived Experience of the Child

 

2013 Post Graduate Diploma in Child, Adolescent & Family Wellbeing: Multidisciplinary Practice

              Tavistock & Portman NHS Trust. University of East London

                (Systemic and Psychoanalytic approach to child development, infant observation, experiential group therapy)

 

2013

          Child protection Training Kent Safeguarding Board

          Incredible Years Parenting Training

          Solihull Training for working with children in therapy.

          Child Protection Awareness, NSPCC

          Safeguarding Vulnerable Adults EduSafe, EduCare

          Anti-Bullying Accreditation with Project Salus

          Inter-Agency Working- Exploring Complex Realities, The Tavistock and Portman NHS UK

          Intermediate Safeguarding Family Action

          Making Endings with Children, Place2Be Play therapy.

          Attachment Theory & Self-Awareness in the Counselor, Place2Be Therapy

          Working with Metaphor, Place2Be Play therapy.

          Helping Children Tell Their Stories, Place2Be Play therapy.

2025  Building Digital Resilience in Children TES

  1. 2024 BACP Children Young People and Families conference

                                

  1. 2023  International Child Protection for International Schools TES                                     

2014/16 MA in Transpersonal Child, Adolescent & Family Therapy. Centre for Counseling and Psychotherapy Education CCPE Beauchamp Lodge, London. University of Northampton

2015 Diploma in Sandplay Studies Centre for Counseling and Psychotherapy Education CCPE London.

 2013 Post Graduate Diploma in Child, Adolescent & Family Wellbeing: Multidisciplinary Practice

              Tavistock & Portman NHS Trust. University of East London

                (Systemic and Psychoanalytic approach to child development, infant observation, experiential group therapy)

2012 Advanced Diploma in Professional Development the Therapeutic and Educational Application of the Arts   IATE Institute of Arts in Therapy and Education    

London Metropolitan University Master’s Level 40 credits

(Art therapy, Sand Tray, Puppetry, Gestalt and TA and clinical practices, personal therapy) 

2009 Birth Doula Certification CLD Childbirth International

2005 Infant Massage Teacher Touch Learn

2004 Diploma and IIHHT in Complementary Health Therapy   

1998 Honours Degree in Visual Arts Silapakorn University Bangkok & Sydney University

1996-1997 B.V.A Degree Sydney University Australia

1993-1995 Diploma of Fine Arts National Art School Australia

 

 

Dear Dad,

 

This is the rest of my life that I never told you about all the things that happened to me when I grew up and left home never turning back even to say hello. I wanted to run away when I was a little girl I tried to run away from you as you hurt me so much but I could not.

I just remember walking down the drive way when I was seven years old holding my mr Smurf teddy and looking at the road thinking to myself where am I going to sleep tonight until I heard my Mum calling out my name and no one could find me and I just kept walking until you came running after me and caught me and brought me home. When I was a little girl you told me I was your cushion, your comfort you confided in me your troubles and I was a good little girl I listened to all your stories, I listened to all your pain but I did not know how to process it.

I just kept all my emotions and tears to myself and use to run outside and sit by myself on the concrete water tank and cry my eyes out as it hurt so much to hear your fears, your terrors of when you were locked up in the basement in Germany and scared by your family when it was world war two and there was violence and drama in your family and you were the youngest of seven brothers and sisters and your parents were actors and they use to fight and throw glass at each other and run and hide from the Germans.

 

I understand it must have been really scary when you were a child, You were nine years younger than my Mum who also lost her Mum when she was four years old as she was exhausted from having had so many children, she worked so hard in the farm where she grew up and her father didn't have anyone who could look after his children so he put an advertisement in the newspaper advertising for a wife and along came my Mothers step mother who pretended to love my grandfather but it was all a lie as she just wanted the money she hated children and treated my mother so badly, she was left in the cold freezing winters with very little food. I remember she said they had to leave their family home she was also one of 8 children and run from the bombs as France was bombed in world war two.

 

So you both met in Australia leaving your pasts behind and started a new life together and I thought you really loved my Mum , you fell in love with her even though she was older and my Mum really wanted a family, she was a natural mother. My sister was born first when she was 38 years old and I remember my mum saying she was very demanding baby every morning crying and 6 am for her bottle and then 2 years later when my Mum was 40 and you were 31. I came along and my mum told me I was an easy baby, not asking for much attention I could settle myself and I think my mum was happy with 2 and then by accident 2 years later my younger brother came along by accident. You never shared how you coped as a Dad were you happy when I was a baby, it seemed like you were and we enjoyed having cuddles and I remember you made me a doll house which I really loved. I understand you tried your best but had a lot of problems and struggles yourself emotionally and I saw as I got older how difficult it was for you.

Being a provider having a steady job never seemed to work out, you did your best with one job in real estate and then you lost that job and tried to get another. I remember you worked in our local supermarket, first on the shelves packing the food and then you worked your way up to manager and I was so proud of you. You took me and my sister to the ballet in our little mazda car driving us to Sydney  but you lost control at the wheel and our car spun out of control and crashed into another car and I was sitting on the left hand side of the door and it was that door that hit the other car and my left leg and foot got trapped in the door.

 

I remember screaming and I turned to my sister and she had ducked her head down but I just sat their frozen in shock and the all glass smashed into my face and  I could not move I was stuck  I was frozen and out car came to a sudden stop, Thank fully you were ok and I remember if my Mum had been with us that day she probably would have died as the front seat where she would have sat was completely smashed in. I remember people coming to help me come out of the car and someone drove us home and all I did was cry all the way home. From that night on my nightmares started. I had dreams of that car exploding into flames and us all dying and then shortly afterwards my best friends mum died in a horrific car accident outside her house and we watched on the news I could not believe what happened, it happened so fast she was driving home and then this huge oil tanker lost control and spun around and she just happened to in front, there was no one else in the car she had just driven away to get groceries and made her way home on the motor way and this truck lost control and blew up in flames and her and her car went up in flames and I lost my best friends mum.

I was frozen I was in shock I did not understand how to process grief. I did not know that I should have gone to the funeral and we should have gone as a family but you did not take me, you just left me to deal with it by myself and my Mum was also at a loss she did not realise that that was also her role to support me in my tears and my nightmares she just left me by myself. I lost my best friend after that. I think looking back, she was busy with bringing up all of us, my Dad had lost his job and she was working with her sewing machine at night repairing clothes as my Aunt her sister had a shop  in Sydney in Double Bay which was called La Buttonnaire, my Mum worked from home bring up 3 kids on her own whilst my dad struggled after our car accident, it broke our trust I did not feel safe with him in the car but I did not have a choice, he was our driver, the tow truck brought our smashed car home and I remember I accidently touched the broken glass and cut my finger and that wound did not heal for a while and my mum use to worry a lot about my Dad after that she would confide in me her worries.

I hope your Dad is coming home soon and I hope he is ok. Eventually we got a new car but unfortunately it happened again, he was driving by himself this time and the sun was shining it was in the late afternoon, he was not paying attention  to the hills as his car moved across the middle of the road and hit head on another child's parent that went to our school. I could not believe it when I went to school that my dad was responsible for injuring another child's Mum and she has broken her arm and had concussion, and my dad came away without any injuries. These memories haunted us through our childhood as he use to take out his anger and emotions on the road. Whenever we went on holiday as a family, we were the one's sitting in our family car that was causing a long line of traffic as my Dad drove purposely slowly to upset everyone on the road until each car took over and yelled abuse out the window, I remember ducking down and hiding.

 

That is how it all started for me retreating into my comfort shell as each time my dad had a bad moment on the road I felt so embarrassed and ashamed and my mum would cry and I would just feel so bad, It was very difficult for us to have happy times as a family as each time we would go out to pizza hut to have dinner which was not very often something would go wrong my dad would not receive his meal in time and he would stand out and shout and scream at the waitress for no reason and myself, my sister and brother and my Mum would all look the other way it was awfully embarrassing thanks Dad Yeap for ruining our family dinner.

He would never take responsibility and as I grew up and became a teenager, he got worse, he got depressed, he lost another job and would just stay in his room. By this time my mum had aged she had lost her looks, he was not attracted to her anymore and he would confide in me I am going to leave your mum for another woman a younger women, he would tell me and then walk away not realizing every time he said that he broke my heart as I loved my Mum so much as I saw how hard she worked to pay our bills, some nights she did not sleep she would sew all night just to earn more money so we could have food on the table.

My dad would not let his fantasies of a younger woman go and it broke my mums heart and mine as our family started to fall apart, I loved school that was what kept me going as all my friends parents were also breaking up I formed a little pinkies club I wanted to be a dancer like Oliver Newton John, I was in the dance group at school I was miss popular, I became school captain my dad never shared how proud he was of me, he would only criticize me for making a mess a home for another school project I was the thorn in his side. All he wanted was a younger woman

 

Fragility sense of self, moment of calm. I am a visionary I am a creative, build a new world

The body is changing its consciousness too, different body patterns body shifts alchemy, have a new relationship with my body physicality, help myself sleep

Moment of calm, take of myself, look after myself, my body is asking me for attention it’s true going through shifts, got to get myself checked out, so I am not neglecting myself body neglect I deserve to look after my body, small achievable goals every day my body is changing

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